In His Own Words
About him
“Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; but the face you have at fifty, is the one you deserve.” Coco Chanel
Note: try not to judge me by my age. The close up photo in rust red was taken July 2025. I look 60s to most who know me (students and friends). I will never "retire". I have the energy and curiosity of a 5 year old with the experiences of a 95 year old world traveller. I take care of my body with regular exercise and my mind with the love of wisdom.
I know and practice the "Art of Loving" (Erich Fromm); Myers-Briggs Type: INTJ; reason, science, art; anarchist, atheist; poet, philosopher; 3 citizenships; autodidact--Love to Learn and Learn to Love; 4 wives (2 died in my arms from cancer, 2 I divorced); 2 children (adopted); many Lives, many Deaths, many Loves, many Me's.
I enjoy thinking and discussing ideas. It is important to make and maintain enduring friendships with intelligent, emotionally mature persons of all ages, male or female.
I like being useful to others by which I mean providing sensitive support for the individual's unique growth. I am responsible for my freedom which is total.
I write, teach, love, care and otherwise cultivate and deliver my experiences and understandings of the "Human Condition" which I hope furthers responsible freedom.
I value consistently applied reason, acknowledged feelings, earned respect, self-and-other responsibility, moral integrity, passion, courage, commitment, competency, beauty, wisdom, serenity, elegance, autonomy, truthfulness, science, technology, the free market, trustworthiness and love.
Emotionally: Above average EQ. As Mark says in the novel A Many-Splendoured Thing by Han Suyin: "The only tragedy in the world is never having loved." I agree; I am no longer tragic. I have learned to value and be responsible for intimate relationships.
Intellectually: Above average IQ. Skeptic, anarchist, atheist, humanist, as Hans Selyes coined: egotistic altruist, rational thinker, valuer of objective truth via the scientific method.
About his ideal match
Psychologically, as individuals, we are evolved to need others--we are "Part Wholes" and need the Other to Complete us. I hope I might interest you to Dare to Pair with me: then Care, Re-Pair and Share with me for the rest of our lives together.
Beautiful in and out with above average IQ and EQ, you've cared for your physical appearance and are self-confident about who you are. Slim (or not fat), youthful good looks, emanating a fresh, serene, love of life attitude with unpretentious elegance and class. Hopefully comfortable with Yin-Yang differences and understand and agree with a libertarian lifestyle (meaning you value individual freedom over collective coercion). Love discussing ideas, are adventurous and willing to go anywhere to find the one who proves himself your equal.
Agree with Ayn Rand: "Love is a response to values. It is with a person's sense of life that you fall in love--the embodiment of the values that formed that person's character." IMPORTANT! Your English must be fairly good. I know only a few words of any language other than English so this is what we must use to get to know each other.
Finally, I would be interested in meeting a woman who is:
Sophisticated but innocent; complexly simple and simply complex; independently dependent or interdependent. Good manners but able to thumb your nose at the haughty. Beautiful but you still worry about it. Lovely legs that match the curve of your mind when the new moon laughs upon its back. Able to earn your way without raising a lot of Cain. Love poetry, science, history and whatever hurts yet brings pleasure. Lost. Found. Still afraid therefore always in need of courage. Kind and understand the need to care and be cared for. Value equally in a relationship: Commitment, Passion, Intimacy. Can paint watercolors and write poetry and like a kid love to share your play with me. You will always say to me: I am never bored with your mind and find your body penetrating too.
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About him
Country of origin: |
United States | |
Location: |
Auckland City (Grafton), Auckland Region, New Zealand | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
81 | |
Star sign: |
Scorpio | |
Height: |
175cm (5' 8.9") | |
Body type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye colour: |
Green | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
Friends; Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship; Marriage | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
Maybe | |
Daily diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Never | |
Education: |
University | |
Occupation: |
Teaching / Education / Training | |
Income: |
Enough | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
None | |
Religion: |
Atheist |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
40 - 70 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
153cm (5' 0.2") - 175cm (5' 8.9") | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic | ||
Looks: |
Very Attractive; Above Average; Attractive | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
Any | ||
Want children: |
Any | ||
Daily diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Never | ||
Drinking: |
Never; Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
Any | ||
Other languages: |
English | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Atheist; Other |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Sophisticated |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Adventurous; Confident; Daring; Faithful; Generous; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Optimistic; Outspoken; Philosophical; Realistic; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Compassion; Contentment; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Kindness; Moderation; Self-control; Tolerance |
Fashion sense: |
Classic (My tastes echo long-established norms) |
Favourite colour: |
Blue |
Hair style: |
Medium |
Eyesight: |
I've got 20/20 vision |
Facial hair: |
I'm clean-shaven |
Body hair: |
Average |
Disabilities: |
I have none |
Body art: |
I don't have any |
Date activities: |
A music concert; A picnic in a park; Meeting for coffee; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Classical; Instrumental; Jazz; New Age; R&B / Soul; Rock; World |
Reading: |
I read books regularly |
Books: |
Business; History; Non-fiction; Science / Technology; Self-help |
TV habits: |
I don't have a television |
Movie frequency: |
Never |
Movie preferences: |
Art Films; Comedy; Documentary; Independent; Romance |
Interests: |
Business news; Cooking; Gardening; Healthy living; Internet; Music; Painting; Photography; Politics; Reading; The arts; Writing books; Writing poetry |
Sport involvement: |
Watching from the sidelines |
Sports: |
Aerobics; Hiking; Running; Table Tennis; Walking |
Cooking: |
I love it! |
Food: |
Asian Fusion; Chinese; French; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a week |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Organised |
Time at work: |
I work part-time |
Time online: |
I'm on several hours a day |
Take drugs: |
Never |
Family size: |
I've got a sister |
Family contact: |
I rarely see them |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
For the right person, to the moon! |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Cat(s); Dog(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Intelligence; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping |
Turn-offs: |
Body piercing(s); Sarcasm; Tattoo(s) |
Work aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious attendance: |
Doesn't apply |
Dream home: |
In the city |
Politics: |
Anarchic |
Feelings about using Soul to Soul: |
Hopeful; Optimistic |
Honesty: |
Extremely |